What is love?
People have their own definition of it. But I think most people do not really understand it. They have an idea or an expectation of what it means, but they are too afraid to truly feel what love is. So, let me define it for you right now. Love is appreciation. Nothing more and nothing less. The highest form of feeling is appreciation. It’s a vibe and an energy that has no expectations. It is a constant element in life. Like energy, it just is. Love is our spirit or soul. Love is what we are in spiritual form. There is no beginning or ending to love. It exists and is therefore a part of every single person on this planet. It does not require anything to be given back. Love is given because it can be given and it feels amazing to give it, but love should not be given with the hope of getting anything in return.
If you tell another person you love them and then expect them to love you in return, that is not love. That is expectation. If you love someone because you believe their actions are justified as ‘right’, that is not love. That is judgement. You may feel that I am wrong in my assessment, but I assure you I am not. Now, just to make it clear, I am not talking about romantic love or the act of being in love. I am speaking of unconditional, divine love. A love that allows each and every one of us free will, regardless of the outcome of whatever choices we make.
When I was growing up, love was given and then taken away. If I acted according to what was deemed ‘right’, I was loved. If I acted in a way that was ‘wrong’, love was taken away. I was told I was not loved anymore. I could never figure out how to turn love on and off. For me, no matter what, I still loved. That feeling never went away. I could get angry and upset and wish that my life was elsewhere, but I never let go of love. I believe that is in part why I never converted to the dark side of life. I think that is what saved my sanity. I know now that it was said as a punishment and to make me feel like I was unworthy, to keep me in line and to control me.
To this day, I continue to love those that dislike me or even hate me. Not because I believe it will change their minds, but because I know that this is who I am. I cannot be otherwise and I accept this willingly. It is a very easy thing to love those that love us. It is a whole different ball game to love those that reject us or despise us. It is hard to do at first when you are programmed to return whatever feeling is given to you. Hate is given, so hate is returned. Anger is given, so anger is returned. It is a useless and empty cycle. I choose to break that cycle. I have no fear of being rejected or despised. It is irrelevant because I love freely and have no expectations. However, it took me time and a lot of practice to let go of the expectations. It takes strength and courage to watch someone walk out of your life and choose to continue loving them while letting them choose their own life.
I encourage you to think about this change in perception. It can be life altering. It can be the difference between defining your life in the way you choose or be defined by life’s circumstances. You can transform your life, your person, your thoughts and your perceptions with unconditional love. The only real thing we have control over in life, is who we are and what we project out in this world. I say, let us project as much love as we possibly can. Let us appreciate the hell out of this world. Goodness knows, the world can use it!